An estimated 5% of Americans are affected by Seasonal Affective Disorder (S.A.D.), a type of depression linked to the change of season. If your mood worsens during fall or winter and you feel listless and lethargic, you might have S.A.D. Believed to be related to the lack of light and sunshine, S.A.D is a real disorder requiring a diagnosis from a medical professional. The good news is that there are multitude of solutions to help combat the effects of S.A.D. Consult a Therapist Before ...read more
Bad Habits to Quit for a Happier and Healthier Life
If you're like most people, you have at least a few bad habits that are holding you back from living your best life. You might not even know it yet. Bad habits can be hard to identify, especially those that have become so ingrained in your life that they feel like a natural and normal part of your routine. However, if you take a good hard look at your daily behaviors, you might just discover a few unhealthy habits that are worth cutting out of your life for good. Let's explore five things you ...read more
How to Get the Most Out of Couples Therapy
As a therapist, I often have a front row seat to relationship miracles. Well, okay, there are no miracles really. The fact is “fixing” a relationship takes work. It takes two people wanting it to work and then putting in the effort.Having said that, I have seen couples go from nearly ending it to being back in love, and liking and respecting each other.Couples therapy can be a powerful change agent, there is no doubt about it. But what allows some couples to make it while others don’t? The ...read more
Normative Male Alexithymia: Let’s Talk About It
There’s an old joke that goes a little something like this:Two women sit next to one another in the park, chatting.The first woman turns to the other and asks, "Does your husband talk to you?"And the other woman replies, "All the time! He asks me what’s for dinner, he asks me if he has clean socks. Once he asked me how the microwave worked."(cue laughter)There is usually a shred of reality and truth in jokes like this one, and I can see how and why this one got started. Traditionally, men have ...read more
Relationship Styles / Dr. Stan Tatkin
Feeling Safe in Your Relationship Monogamy- really? With all the freedom and hot tub parties and popularity of hookup sites like Tinder, why do most people come crawling back to Monogamy, even here in the world capitol of Open relationships? Whether it’s Polyamory, where several people all agree to be in a committed, sexual relationship or open marriage where you both agree it’s ok to have sex with other people, those kinds of agreements can work for a small percentage of people and that’s ...read more
Female Orgasms
Mind blowing…off the charts…over the top…OMG… I came 20 times! When it comes to sex, the driving force for men and women seems to be how to achieve the best, and the most, orgasms possible. While I would argue that connection is really the most important factor in having great sex, orgasms (alone or with a partner) are worthy of an exalted place in your sexual repertoire. ...read more
Single and Loving It
I’m doing an interview later today with the CBC (Canadian Broadcasting Company) for a documentary they are doing about being single today and how things have changed. I will be commenting on why people CHOOSE to be single, and the benefits they experience making that choice for their lives. We will be talking about a wide range of options people now have and that one choice is no better then another- just different. ...read more